LIFE IS GOOD. I SHAPE MY LIFE.

There were many times when I didn’t agree with the statement “life is good.” My family is far beyond torn. I am in foster care jumping from house to house and I find it hard to talk to and trust people. Which has lead me to go in and out of deep depressions. This was my mindset and my days were bad. I had no clue that my life was beginning to reflect my thoughts. 

Staying positive and keeping it all together is a difficult task when I have a bunch of random and challenging things being thrown at me. However, once I started to really focus on bettering myself by changing my thought pattern, my days and my moods began to get better, and I was keeping myself together with less of a challenge each day. 

I now find myself having pretty decent days. Some days are chipper, some are smooth sailing, some are just O.K and if some are bad, I DO NOT let it take over my mind.

THE DIFFERENCE

I wasn’t enjoying perfectly fine days because I was too focused on the little imperfections.  The first thing I had to realize is… imperfections are apart of life and will always be here. There is nothing I can do about it! Getting upset makes one flustered. Getting flustered throws reasonable thinking out the window. It’s as if, all reasonable thoughts are stored in the mind’s deep freezer, with no intention of defrosting any time soon. Instead of putting my mental and physical state in this sort of stressful condition, I keep my psyche intact by trying my best to remain calm, and handle the situation so that it doesn’t get any worse. I understand the feeling of wanting to be in control of everything in my life. However, I have to remember that not everything is in my control. Sometimes I have to allow whatever is going to happen, to happen, and make do with the outcome. This doesn’t mean that I don’t walk away with a smile. I realize I have a choice and I’m exercising choice to be happy despite life circumstances! 

I’M LEARNING

I’m learning how to take everything one step at a time.  Doing this helps me to “check myself,” meaning, I mentally stop in the middle of whatever “unfortunate” situation I am going through, and I coach myself on how to handle it. I tell myself to breathe, literally “breathe.” Taking a breath can go a long way. 

With Love,

Imani

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